Most men fumble negotiations—not because they lack intelligence, but because they either come on too strong or back down too quickly. Either way, they end up walking away frustrated, empty-handed, or worse, feeling like they were talked out of their own position.
But what if there were a way to stand your ground without aggression? A method that allows you to maintain control of the conversation, assert your position, and walk away with what you want—all without unnecessary friction?
That’s where the “Agree and Repeat” method comes in.
This is not about manipulation or deception. It’s about strategy, presence, and the ability to keep your composure while steering a conversation in your favor.
You see, most people are programmed to resist direct confrontation. The moment they sense pushiness, aggression, or excessive resistance, their instinct is to dig in, escalate, and shut down any chance of cooperation. But when you agree with them—on the surface—you lower their defenses. Then, when you calmly restate your position, they are far more likely to consider it.
This is how a dominant man negotiates. Not by raising his voice. Not by pleading. But by maintaining control of the frame and allowing the other person to feel like they’re making the decision—even though you’re guiding them the entire way.
Let’s break this down.
What Is “Agree and Repeat”?
At its core, Agree and Repeat is a conversational technique that allows you to:
- Acknowledge the other person’s position without immediately caving.
- Avoid triggering defensive reactions that shut down negotiations.
- Maintain control of the conversation without coming across as combative.
- Reinforce your position with confidence until the other party softens.
It works because it neutralizes tension while keeping your request on the table. Instead of meeting resistance with more resistance, you meet it with calm acknowledgment—then immediately steer the conversation back to your goal.
This method is used by high-level negotiators, successful salesmen, and men who understand how to handle people. It is subtle, effective, and completely disarming to those who aren’t trained to resist it.
How It Works in Practice
Let’s say you’re negotiating a deal, asking for a discount, or simply standing your ground in a conversation. The typical responses go something like this:
Scenario: You’re at a retail store, eyeing a leather jacket that’s just outside your budget.
Salesperson: “I’m sorry, we don’t offer discounts on this item.”
A weak response would be:
- Backing down immediately: “Oh, okay. I understand.” (And then paying full price.)
- Getting aggressive: “That’s ridiculous. Give me the discount.” (And getting shut down immediately.)
Neither of these works. One makes you too passive, the other makes you a problem to be dealt with.
Now, let’s use Agree and Repeat:
You: “I completely understand, and I appreciate that. But I’m still looking for a way to make this fit my budget.”
You’ve just done three things:
- Acknowledged their stance (“I completely understand.”) → This lowers their defenses.
- Kept the request on the table (“I appreciate that.”) → This keeps the conversation open.
- Restated your goal with confidence (“I’m still looking for a way to make this fit my budget.”) → This keeps the pressure on them without making them feel attacked.
If they say no again? You agree and repeat—without breaking frame.
Salesperson: “Like I said, we can’t discount it.”
You: “I get that, and I respect your policy. I still need to find a way to make this work, though. What do you suggest?”
At this point, most people will start looking for a way to compromise. Maybe they can throw in free shipping. Maybe they can find a small discount somewhere. But the key is, you didn’t back down, and you didn’t make an enemy out of them.
This works in any setting—negotiations, business, relationships, and everyday interactions.
The 5 Core Principles of “Agree and Repeat”
1. Stay Calm and Collected
The moment you show frustration or impatience, you lose control of the conversation. Men who command respect do not lose composure. They handle every interaction with the cool confidence of someone who expects to get what they want.
This technique only works if you keep your tone even, your energy grounded, and your presence strong.
- Do NOT argue. That only triggers resistance.
- Do NOT raise your voice. Stay controlled, even if they don’t.
- Do NOT waver in your position. Be steady, not aggressive.
Your calmness is what makes this effective. Unshakable men get what they want.
2. Acknowledge Their Perspective Without Caving
Most people are conditioned to immediately defend their stance when challenged. When you acknowledge their position before restating your own, you short-circuit that defensive response.
- “I completely understand.”
- “That makes sense.”
- “I hear you.”
These are NOT admissions of defeat. They are tactical responses that lower resistance.
Once you’ve acknowledged them, you immediately bring the conversation back to your point.
- “I completely understand. But here’s where I’m at…”
- “That makes sense. Here’s what I need to happen…”
- “I hear you. That said, I’m still looking for…”
It keeps your position alive while making the other party feel heard.
3. Be Persistent, Not Pushy
Most people give up too soon in conversations. They ask for something once, get a no, and walk away. But the first “no” is almost never final.
- Pushy men argue.
- Weak men back down.
- Strong men persist.
The key is persistence with grace. You do not need to argue. You simply repeat yourself with confidence until they soften.
It’s uncomfortable at first. But the longer you hold frame, the more they feel the pressure to compromise.
4. Use Gentle Yet Firm Language
Words matter. The wrong phrase triggers defensiveness. The right phrase keeps them engaged.
Bad: “That’s ridiculous. You can do better than that.”
Better: “I completely understand, but I’m still looking for a way to make this work.”
Bad: “No, I don’t accept that.”
Better: “I get where you’re coming from, but I need something different.”
Words shape outcomes. Use them strategically.
5. Know When to Walk Away
Not every negotiation will go your way. But the man who controls himself always has the option to walk away with his dignity intact.
If someone refuses to budge, you can simply say:
- “I understand, and I appreciate your time. But this doesn’t work for me.”
- “That’s fair. I’ll have to pass.”
You never need to beg. You never need to argue. You simply move on.
Power in Control, Not Conflict
Mastering “Agree and Repeat” gives you a powerful, strategic way to hold your ground without coming across as aggressive or weak.
It allows you to:
- Stay in control of the conversation.
- Assert your position without unnecessary conflict.
- Influence outcomes in your favor—while keeping your dignity intact.
The next time you find yourself in a negotiation, a debate, or any situation where you need to hold your ground—try it.
Agree. Repeat. Stay steady. And watch how often you end up getting exactly what you want.